There are a lot of people who believe that winning arguments can make them feel victorious. There are times when this is important. In fact, this can be considered a strength because this means that you have the ability to make other people listen to what you have to say regardless of whether they agree with you or not.
This type of strength is not innate in everybody but it can be learned. What is more important is that people will learn to respect you for who you are. You do not need to be someone you are not just to make people respect you. Be yourself and you will be respected more.