No I do not think feminism is a patronized concept. According to dictionary.com, patronize means to behave in an offensively condescending manner. Most feminists do not behave this way. Feminism seeks to allow women the same political, social and economic freedoms as men. Most feminists don’t think they are better than anyone else and they don’t intend to be offensive or condescending to anyone.
If feminism ideals want to be successful, feminists need to be kind and respectful to others, regardless of their gender, political leanings, social standing, religion, and economic background.