The traditional way to pour wine at a wine service is to start with the person who ordered the wine. Then, serve the ladies. Then the men. You end with the person who ordered, since they will get the first taste of the wine. It doesn’t matter if the person who ordered is male or female. That’s how it is done.
If you are hosting the wine tasting party, you can start with the ladies, then the men, and end with your glasses. This goes for every wine that you are going to be using. It is recommended that you use the same pattern of people as you pour so that it is consistent. This will keep a nice flow to the pourings and keep the tasting flowing.
The person who ordered the wine has the first tasting pour, after ladies and then man and finished with the person who orer de bottle, not matter if is a woman