Although we cannot really change our personalities, we can make changes in our social lives. For those who are timid or lack confidence, this may seem a daunting task, but like any other task, it is made easier by breaking it down into managable steps. Firstly, consider those asepcts of your social life which you consider successful or enjoyable. How can you repeat, extend or replicate them? Let´s take an instance.
If you typically enjoy meeting a certain group of friends in a wine bar once a month, what can you do to arrange meeting more often? If it is the particular bar that lends satisfaction, can you form another group to meet there? Are you meeting enough people to spend time with those with similar interests to yourself? If not, look for workshops or public events that attract people with those interests.
If you were interested in classic cars, you are going to see other enthusiasts at sales, fairs, auctions. Once you have met the same enthusiasts a few times, you can suggest going on to eat together. Generally speaking it is DOING things together that can spark off subsequent social activity, but you have to work at things. Don´t wait for others to invite you, to arrange events, to think of activities. You will find others are glad of your ideas for gatherings or activities because it saves them the trouble.
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